Dear Miss Geic,

He broke my heart. I thought he was The One. All these mix emotions. I thought I had a future with him.  I’m trying to get over him. But everyday is a different day. One day I want him back, the next day I hate him so much! Why am I feeling this way? Help me, please!

-Wendy-

Dear Wendy,

Everyone goes through it. Unless the person has never been in love, that is. Love is the only thing that can make a person do something beyond their limits. Driving another person to the edge. It may give you the best times in your life. But when love ends, it may also break someone down.

Yes, everyday is a different day. Through these moments, you will be feeling vulnerable. To a point that you may feel you can’t get through another day without him. That you need him very much in your life. Or else you can’t go on. And suddenly, the very next day, there’s this boiling rage in you, that you can’t believe how he has mistreated you, and you felt like burning down his car/house and etc.

The turmoils of emotions are actually very normal when someone is going through the process of a broken heart.

These feelings listed below may not go in order. You will feel the :

Anger - Hatred. You are filled with such imaginable anger that you hate the sight of your ex, or rather anything that reminds you of the ex. The fact that the person who once told you, he/she loves you, are the one that breaks your heart into pieces.

Sadness - After all that effort and things you had done and compromised to your ex, and in the end, it’s all for nothing.

Denial - The thought that your ex would return to you. That maybe he/she would realise the mistake he/she have made.

What if’s - Thinking if you may have reacted differently, or did the things in another way, the outcome could have been different as well. All the “What if’s you didn’t or you did this?”.

Memories - Somehow only the good memories tends to play all in your mind. All the times spent together, all laughter, romantic times that keeps replaying in your head one by one like a movie scene.

Acceptance - Accepting the fact that your ex will remain YOUR EX. That person will never return to you, and that you have broken up for good.

The sooner you enter the phase of acceptance, the faster the healing process will take place. Take it easy, do what you love and most important is to love yourself first before loving others. Open your eyes, see the world, it is really bigger out there.